Articles for Mediators
Calming Upset People With EAR
By Bill Eddy | Empathy, attention and respect are the opposite of what you feel like giving someone when he or she is upset and is verbally attacking YOU, but they are what works. People who are very upset generally cannot think well or negotiate constructively. With empathy, attention, and respect, you can help them calm down.
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Cleaning out the Garage: A Metaphor for Divorce Mediators
By Ariella Shuster | Metaphorically, deciding what to keep and what to let go of during divorce and experiencing the associated memories and feelings is like cleaning out a long-cluttered garage.
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The Alienated Child: Commentary on the Intensity of Rejection and an Elaboration of the Therapeutic Team Approach
By Maddy Cacciatore | Children who are alienated from one of their parents may be projecting a lot of their pain onto the rejected parent. Helping them may take a team effort.
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Using ADR Ideas to Negotiate Divorce Agreements
By Larry Gaughan | Adversarial attorneys can learn from mediators about using constructive processes instead of exacerbating competitive, dysfunctional divorce negotiations.
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The Marriage Between Cultural Sensitivity and Mediation
By Mukul Khandelwal | Becoming a culturally-sensitive mediator is a process that continues throughout one’s professional career. Clients’ cultures and values may differ greatly from family to family.
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Mojo Marketing & Management: “The Business of Your Practice”
By Ada Hasloescher | Buckle your seat belts and join me as I tackle the roadblocks, fast tracks and everything in between for mediators building their practices. All are welcome, even the backseat drivers!
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So Much Polarization
By Donald T. Saposnek, Ph.D. | All these political issues that have become (or continued to be) polarized can be understood within the same conceptual frame as we understand our high conflict divorce cases.
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How To Use Social Media for Fun, Learning, and Profit
By Virginia Colin | For mediators, social media provide opportunities to educate the public and talk with colleagues. Sometimes you get free advertising.
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Child Inclusive Mediation: Research on Views of the Child Reports in Ontario
By Rachel Birnbaum and Nick Bala | How can mediators and courts give children a safe, useful and cost-efficient way to make their perspectives known when decisions about parenting plans are being made? Some research is available.
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THE TIME IS NOW: Frequently Asked Questions and Observations about Credentialing Mediators
By Steve Erickson | We need a way to assess skills and provide credentials for family mediators who are client-centered, non-coercive, and respectful of self-determination. Other approaches masquerading as mediation are confusing the public.
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Self-Determination and Standards of Practice
By Larry Gaughan | Ethical Standards of Practice based on definitions of “self-determination” must take into account the full complexity of the issues involved.
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Mediation and Our Spiritual Journeys in a Material World
By Larry Gaughan | Even during divorce, perhaps the best way to describe our paths through life is that we are each on a spiritual journey. Mediators can help people refocus on their new spiritual journeys through the material world of present family finances and future security.
read moreYou may have interest in prior editions of APFM’s newsletter, The Professional Family Mediator.